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_001.jpg) Going back to the story of Moses and Khidr, after they
crossed the river they came across a child, and Khidr intentionally killed that
child. Moses asked Khidr how he could possibly do such a thing? The child was
innocent and Khidr simply killed him! Khidr told Moses that the child had
righteous parents and if the child had grown up (God knew that) he would have
become such a terror for his parents that he would have driven them into
disbelief, so God ordered the death of the child.
Of course the parents grieved when they found their
child dead. However, God replaced their child with one who was righteous and
better for them. This child honored them and was good to and for them, but the
parents would always have a hole in their heart due to losing their first
child, right until the Day of Judgment when they will stand before God, and He
will reveal to them the reason why He took the soul of their first child and
then they will then understand and praise God.
So this is the nature of our lives. There are things,
things which are apparently negative, things which happen in our lives which
seem to be obstacles to inner peace because we do not understand them or why
they happened to us, but we have to put them aside.
They are from God and we have to believe that ultimately
there is good behind them, whether we can see it or not. Then we move on to
those things that we can change. First we identify them, then we move to the
second major step and that is removing the obstacles by developing solutions
for them. To remove the obstacles we have to focus mostly on self-change and
this is because God says:
“Verily! God will not change the good condition of a people
as long as they do not change their state of good within themselves…” (Quran
13:11)
This is an area which we have control over. We can even
develop patience, although the common idea is that some people are just born
patient.
A man came to the Prophet, may the mercy and
blessings of God be upon himraise his name, and asked what he needed to do to
get to Paradise, so the Prophet told him: “Do not get angry.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
The man was an individual who would get angry quickly,
so the Prophet told the man that he needed to do change his angry nature. So
changing oneself and one’s character is something achievable.
The Prophet also said: “Whoever pretends to be
patient (with a desire to be patient) God will give him patience.”
This is recorded in Saheeh Al-Bukhari. This
means that although some people are born patient the rest of us can learn to be
patient.
Interestingly in Western psychiatry and psychology they
used to tell us to get it off our chest, don’t hold it in because if we did we
would explode, so better to let it all out.
Later on they discovered that when people let it all out
small blood vessels would burst in their brain because they were so angry. They
found that it was actually dangerous and potentially damaging to let it all out.
So now they say it is better not to let it all out.
The Prophet told us to try to be patient, so externally
we should give that façade of being patient even when internally we are boiling.
And we do not try to be patient externally in order to deceive people; rather,
we do so in order to develop patience. If we are consistent in this then the
external image of patience also becomes internal and as a result complete
patience is achieved and is achievable as mentioned in the Hadeeth quoted
above.
Among the methods is to look at how the material
elements of our lives play a major part with regards to patience and us
achieving it.
The Prophet gave us advice on how to deal with these
elements by saying:
“Do not look to those above you who are more
fortunate, instead, look to those below you or less fortunate…”
This is because no matter what our situation is, there
are always those who are worse off than us. This should be our general
strategy with regards to the material life. Nowadays the material life is a
huge part of our life, we seem to be obsessed with it; gaining all we can in
this world seems to be the main point that most of us focus our energies
towards. So if one must do this then they should not let it affect their inner
peace.
While dealing with the material world we should not keep
focusing on those who are better off than us otherwise we will never be
satisfied with what we have. The Prophet said:
“If you give the son of Adam a valley of gold he
would want another one.” (Saheeh Muslim)
The saying is that the grass is always greener on the
other side; and the more a person has the more a person wants. We cannot
achieve satisfaction in the material world if we are chasing after it in such a
way; rather, we should look to those who are less fortunate, this way we will
remember the gifts, benefits and mercy that God has bestowed upon us with
regards to our own wealth, no matter how little it may seem.
There is another saying of the Prophet Muhammad which
helps us in the realm of the material world to put our affairs in their proper
perspective, and is a Prophetic example of Steven Covey’s
principle of “first things first”. The Prophet stated this principle over 1400
years ago and laid this principle down for the believers by saying:
“Whoever makes this world his goal God will confuse
his affairs and place poverty before his eyes and he will be able to attain
nothing from this world except for what God has already written for him…” (Ibn
Maajah, Ibn Hibbaan)
So a person’s affairs will not come together for him, he
will be all over the place, like a chicken with its head cut off, running wild;
if he makes this world his goal. God will place poverty before his eyes and no
matter how much money he has he will feel poor. Every time someone is nice to
him or smiles at him he feels that they are only doing so because they want his
money, he can’t trust anyone and is not happy.
When the stock market crashes you read about some of
those who invested in it committing suicide. A person may have had 8 million
and lost 5 million with 3 million left after the market crashed, but losing
that 5 million seems to him to be the end. He sees no point in living after
that, as God has put poverty between his eyes.
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