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In this new century punctuated by astounding
technological advancement, and instant global communication it has become
commonplace to hear people talk about respect, or lack of it. One hears about
respect for the environment, respect for other cultures and religions, respect
for each other and the catch cry of the 21st century - self respect.
We lose respect for our politicians and governments, we gain respect for our
sporting heroes and actors. We try to respect our planet by turning off taps
and unnecessary lights. We complain bitterly about our lives and the lack of
respect we feel at home and at work. We live in a topsy- turvy world where we
talk reverently of actors who give charity to drought ravaged countries while we
throw food into garbage bins. We shed tears over drug-addicted singers yet
step over the homeless cluttering our streets. We respect the learned men that
warn us of global warming but we ignore the commandments of our Creator. We
understand the significance of respect but we are unable to attain it. For
many of us the essence is lost!
How can we regain this lost quality of respect that for
many of us is seemingly unattainable? Simply by following God’s commandments and
worshipping Him accordingly. God says in the Quran that He created mankind for
no reason except to worship Him. (Quran 51:56) Worshipping God is
showing Him the respect He deserves. Worshipping God makes it possible for us
to treat all of mankind with respect, it allows us to treat the environment
with respect and it gives others permission to respect us. Then are no human
beings more worthy of our respect then those whose piety and closeness to God
is obvious. In the previous article we discussed the dangers inherent in
backbiting and gossip, and how those who engage in such behaviour have lost
respect for themselves and more importantly, for God.
As human beings, we all must struggle against our base desires
and one of the hardest sins to resist is gossiping about others. However, to
worship and love God in the correct way it is imperative that we try to rid
ourselves of the evil of backbiting. One way to clear ourselves of this ignoble
character trait is to cultivate closeness to God by reflecting upon the verses
of Quran and sayings of Prophet Muhammad that remind us of God’s punishment and
encourage us to repent.
“Or do they think that We hear not their secrets
and their private counsel? (Yes, We do) and Our Messengers (appointed angels
in charge of mankind) are by them, to record.” (Quran 43:80)
Prophet Muhammad encouraged us to feel shame before God;
He said, “Feel shame before God as you ought to feel shame before Him. So
guard the head and what it contains, guard the stomach and what you put in it,
and think upon death and returning to dust”
We should feel this shame whenever we backbite, and take the opportunity to
reflect upon what we loose if we engage in this behaviour. We loose the
essence of respect.
Disrespect is not part of Islam
Prophet Muhammad was continually teaching his companions
and reminding them about the seriousness of disobeying God. In many sayings,
he explains the grave consequences of not respecting the rights of others. He said, “The one who is bankrupt from among
my followers is he who comes on the Day of Resurrection with prayer, charity, and fasting to his credit. However, he had insulted this person, struck that person,
and seized the wealth of another, because of which his good deeds will be taken
from him. Then, if his good deeds are exhausted, the sins of those whom he
wronged will be taken from them and foisted upon him and then he will be cast
into the Fire.”
A true believer strives to improve himself and is aware of his responsibility
to protect others rather than disrespect them. In Islam, believers do not
disrespect each other nor do they tolerate disrespect towards their brothers
and sisters.
Another quick and easy way to protect ourselves from the
evils of gossip and backbiting is to stay away from those who engage in it. God
says in the Quran:
“And when they hear dirty, false, evil vain talk, they
withdraw from it and say, "To us our deeds, and to you your deeds. Peace
be to you. We seek not the ignorant.” (Quran 28:55)
Prophet Mohammad placed great emphasis on being around
righteous people rather then those who occupy their time with vain, useless activities
or talk. He said, “The likeness of a good companion and a bad companion is
that of a person carrying musk and another who works the bellows. The person
carrying musk might give you some of it or at the very least, you will enjoy
the pleasant scent. The person with the bellows will either singe your
clothing or at least make you suffer from the bad smell.”
Keeping company with righteous people helps one to avoid
backbiting and gossip because caring friends will remind each other of the
evils and punishments associated with such behaviour. It is also useful to
reflect on our own shortcomings and character flaws rather then gossip about
the faults of others. The great scholar, Hasan al-Basri said: “We used to
remind each other that whoever faults his brother on account of a sin that he
had repented from, God will punish him by having him fall into that sin himself.”
Having established that backbiting, and gossip are great
sins, the scholars of Islam have explained however, that there are certain
conditions under which it may be permissible to talk about the faults and
characteristics of others.
It is allowable for one who is being oppressed to inform the authorities of
the wrongs being committed against him. It is allowable for those who see vice
to inform those who are capable of removing it. It is also allowable to
mention people’s faults when seeking sincere religious advice from those
qualified to give it. It is permissible to mention someone by describing them
(blind, deaf, in a wheelchair etc) as long as it is not done in a belittling or
mocking fashion. Lastly, it is not allowable to hide the character faults of a
person known to you from those seeking marriage or business advice.
Careful analysis of the above conditions reveals that
respect is inherent in these exceptions. To oppress someone is to disrespect
them, to commit vice is to disrespect the community and to deceive people who
ask for sincere advice is also a form of disrespect. If we feel ourselves disrespected
then we should look to our own sins and turn to God in repentance. If the
essence of respect is missing in our lives then we can regain it by worshipping
God with full submission. Islam insists that we show respect for God, by
obeying Him and to obey Him inherently means respecting others and ourselves.
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